Today is Chuseok, Korea’s Moon Festival. Massive numbers of people have fled Seoul to go home and pay respects to their ancestors. Yesterday, when I finally ventured out into the emptiness, the usually crowded streets of Seoul was eerily quiet, as many of the stores are boarded up, and the neighborhood alleyways were free of scooters, cars, and pedestrians.
Today also happens to be my birthday. I now know what all those kids with birthdays on Christmas, Thanksgiving, Leap Year, etc felt like. Although I like to joke that all of Korea is celebrating my birthday, it really isn’t fun when nothing is open and most people are gone. I am lucky though that I have friends who like to stay up late in bars (specifically a place called Mafia), as I got a nice birthday cake surprise and several yummy shots at midnight, before everyone had to head out to Chuseok activities today.
I had a friend who at some point decided to only celebrate what she called “the really important birthdays” – those that end in a 5 or 0. I don’t really subscribe to this philosophy because i really like cake and presents, but more importantly, 34 represents an opportunity for me to sprint and leap past all the things that sucked in the past year.
So, in the spirit of moving on and keeping it real, here are the things i learned this past year:
- love isn’t enough. i ended two very important things this past year, a relationship and my decade-long work in public policy. i was passionate for the cause, but felt totally ineffective. similarly, i loved my partner, but the two of us together just didn’t work. the reality is that there needs to be more.
- i need to care less about what people think. i was told that people think that i’m difficult to date. OUCH, that hurt. maybe shy, maybe cautious, maybe hard to get to know, but difficult? i don’t want to care what you think.
- there is no asian american movement, but maybe the 2nd gen will change that. i’m told that because i’m chinese, then i can’t possibly care about other ethnic groups. again, i need to stop caring what people think.
- anti-intelligence is alive and well in the U.S (why is intelligence equated with elitism?). as a know-it-all, i want to learn things and i hope my leaders would too. there is nothing wrong with wanting to know things.
- i need to go dancing more. i definitely don’t care what people think about my dancing.
on that optimistic note, i’m looking forward to a really fabulous year of being 34!





